Sizzling Sex
Q My husband and I just celebrated our 12th anniversary. Over the years, sex has become infrequent and less exciting. How can we get our sex life back to what it used to be?
A With desire to ignite the fire, you’re off to a great start! As the saying goes, in order for something to be different, it needs to be approached differently. And, sex is no exception.
Having been together for years, you and your partner have likely built one of the most important basics to make sex enthralling—trust! If you use this priceless bond to your advantage by unleashing your innermost fantasies, your sex life will sizzle. Of course, there are other possibilities. How about trying things that have gone by the wayside? Or, experimenting with techniques that stir new pleasurable sensations and boost sexual confidence? If you haven’t already, try massaging each other before sex, incorporating sex toys, exchanging erotic banter or racy compliments, creating new sexual positions, and role playing sexy scenarios. When you max out these ideas, here’s a novel twist: Discover ways to climax through touch, without having vaginal penetration.
But remember, great sex isn’t only about what only happens in bed—it can begin with what leads up to the physical encounter. Make out like you did in the lustful phase of your relationship, take each other out on dates, pamper each other, be affectionate, and share each other’s interests. While it may not sound arousing, helping each other around the house can lead to hot sex too!
The bottom line: A stronger connection, increased intimacy, and a willingness to explore new erotic options are the best prescriptions for passion and renewed sexual satisfaction.
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