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The Essentials of Tantric Sex

Q My girlfriend has been raving about Tantric sex.  It seems that her friend told her about it.  She even mentioned that Sting and Trudie Styler are fans.  I pretended like I knew all about it, but I don't.  Help!  Can you please tell me what it is?

A Tantric Sex is a spiritual journey that stirs and radiates sexual energy, generating a pure state of bliss and connection within oneself, a lover, and the world along the way.  Thought to have originated 5,000 years ago in the East, Tantric practices have made their way into bedrooms across America.  These days, it seems many who partake in this erotic art create their own recipe for ecstasy, rather than following traditional teachings. 

When it comes to Tantric Sex, there are essential themes.  One is to sanctify the space with things like fragrant candles and soft fabrics, creating an ambiance that entices the senses.  Another is synchronized breathing, while partners simultaneously gaze into each other’s eyes, and meld as if they were one.  Forming sensual configurations integral for bonding is a vital component too.  However, at the core there’s a heightened awareness that allows partners to stay in the moment, experience amplified sensations, and deepen intimacy—ultimately opening their heart and soul to each other.  Other perks of Tantric practice:  Couples can have sex when they’re ready, rather than being rushed.  And, it helps the guy stave off his orgasm, resulting in prolonged mutual satisfaction. 

While I’ll happily answer future questions on Tantra, you can also learn specifics through online research and by attending weekend retreats.  You can also read the book The Complete Idiot's Guide to Tantric Sex by Dr. Judy Kuriansky, which isn't for "idiot's," but rather beginners.  Or, you could ask your girlfriend to find out about her friend's techniques, without having to confess you're a novice on the topic.  Once you learn more, you can come up with a practice you both can rave about!